Being Your Best Friend

A best friend is trustworthy, loving, reliable and often fun to be with. Most of all, a best friend is someone who loves you and accepts all your good and all your not so good qualities. A best friend is some whose company you really enjoy. True friends help us grow and empower us by pointing at all our strengths…
Have you ever wondered or asked, how good of a friend are you to yourself?

See, if you can’t call yourself your best friend you must know that is a source of inner conflict. If you don’t treat yourself the way a good friend would treat you, your conscious and subconscious mind live in inner conflict and pulling in opposite directions. If your subconscious mind is being mistreated with your thoughts and feelings, your are creating, a reasonable subconscious expectation of mistrust. Your conscious mind may be conditioned to believe whatever you tell yourself, but your subconscious mind works on the feelings your thoughts produce. In other words, how does your self talk make you feel? What messages is your self talk sending your subconscious mind on the regular basis. And, if you were your subconscious mind, how would you feel about it?

I believe we are largely disconnected from our cores and true essence. It is so easy to get distracted and disconnected from our true natures. Think of how many hours a day do you spend “distracted” by over working, cell phones, computers, sensationalistic TV, tabloids, etc?  The problem with this distraction is that we never get to truly know ourselves. We put what really matters in the back burner. The consequences of living a distracted life are dire. We learn to live in mediocre personal relationships. We learn to live with mediocre expectations or ourselves and our world. It becomes more and more difficult to move forward, reach our dreams or feel at peace.

Internal growth and strengthening happens only through introspection and connection with our core essence.  Spiritual or Mental Introspection help us see beyond the veil of expectations. Spiritual or Mental Introspection help us reach a place of  discovery, true self love and acceptance.  We cannot have internal harmony and true self acceptance without self love and compassion.  We cannot grow and  reach our potential if we don’t treat ourselves with respect, the way a best friend would. Your subconscious mind feeds on the feelings you produce with your thoughts. The more peaceful and self loving your thoughts, the more nourishing the feelings you create in you and around you.

So here is a challenge for self growth. I dare you to examine your relationship with yourself. I dare you to become your own best friend and you treat yourself exactly how you would expect a best friend to treat you. Practice Spiritual or Mental introspection.

Practice kindness with yourself when you make mistakes.   
Cheer yourself on when you stumble and fall down.
Practice unconditional Love towards yourself, the way a best friend would.
Make and keep promises to yourself.
Use loving and caring words in your self talk. the way a best friend would.